Greetings MCLA Sacred Path Community,
On Saturday, November 11th, I had the honor of walking my 33-year-old daughter, Dana, down the aisle in preparation for the exchange of Sacred Vows with her fiancé, Alex Kapustin. During the five years of getting to know each other, a friendship developed and a budding romance blossomed into a bond that appears to be well suited for longevity.
I was asked to contribute a reading for their nuptial ceremony and I chose to speak on the significance of Sacred Vows. I’ve included my message to Dana and Alex and those in attendance in this newsletter. I think you’ll find it helpful, especially if you haven’t re-read your vows in a while, and maybe not even since you first exchanged them
At dinner, following the reception, I offered a toast to the Bride and Groom, their wedding party and guests. In the closing of my toast I expressed that life can be hard. It’s not for the faint of heart. But, we don’t have to go it alone. Family, friends and loving companionship can get us through even the most arduous of challenges.
If you really want to get to know yourself, put yourself in a committed and intimate relationship, preferably with someone who you feel is your soulmate,,, at least your equal
Dana and Alex, I trust that the two of you will aspire to remain the best of friends. As a therapist for many years I know the research on what constitutes a sustainable relationship. And, the cornerstone of the foundation is the friendship stone.
When the veneer fades over time, and it will. When the due is off the lily so to speak, it’s your friendship that is enduring and will get you through the hard times.
One more piece of advice, if I may, keep your vows where you can see them. Reread them to each other at least once a year on your anniversary, if not more often. The Sacred Vows that you have spoken today are the other cornerstones to your foundation. You have set your intention in the bedrock for your future together for the years ahead. And we are all blessed to have been your witnesses.
Changing gears, a long time friend, Mindy Fradkin AKA “The Princess of Wow” and founder of “The Smile Revolution,” is bringing her one woman show (Ageless Wonders: When did I become a Senior?) from New York to Los Angeles for one night only at the Whitefire Theatre on Friday night, January 19th, 2018.
Roland Mousaa, who attended one of our retreats a few years ago is Mindy’s musical arranger and will accompany her onstage. Roland’s roots are embedded deep in Woodstock and go back to his relationship with music giants Pete Seeger, Bob Dylan, Richie Havens and others. Click on the promo flier herewith for advance tickets. It promises be fun with plenty of smiles, levity and hilarity. It’s also a great opportunity to include the women in our lives who I’m sure will enjoy Mindy’s off-the-hook creativity.
The March River Retreat is on schedule and proceeding nicely. Advance registration is now open and there are spots still available; but, if you’re interested, please don’t wait to place your deposit to reserve your spot since they are limited. Read more about this event and join the Tribe that will have an experience of a lifetime.
Obviously, many men are being taken to task for their apparent inappropriate behavior toward women with whom they have been in contact. I’m going to address this in a new article that I’ll have ready for the January newsletter, if not before. In the interim, I want to encourage you to reconsider my book The Sacred Path: The Way of the Spiritual Warrior - Journey to Mindful Manhood. It was published 5 years ago and yet it is probably more on target for what’s going on with men today. If you know someone who is going through the challenges of being a good man, please consider encouraging that he read the book. And, 'tis the season for giving, so it will fit nicely in someone’s stocking or as a gift for one of the nights of Hanukkah.
In the spirit of the holidays, we at The Men’s Center/Sacred Path Community wish you and your family a very Happy Hanukkah and a very Merry Christmas!