Taming The Beasts That Are Killing Your Relationships

Monster Relationships: Taming the Beasts that are Killing Your Relationships

by Rod Louden, LMFT, BCPC

What does in really mean to become a "whole" person?

For me, it means to have full mastery of all the elements that exist in both the masculine and feminine elements of the universe. Relationships with our own problems/monsters interfere with our ability to master these elements. Our lack of understanding and skill open a doorway for false beliefs to be created leading to actions that create suffering. This leads to the creation of problem saturated stories; negative energy that keeps us from liberating ourselves from the weight of problems.

Monster's such as fear, low self-esteem, anger, addiction, and other's are given the mental landscape to run amuck. When we tame these beasts, we liberate ourselves from the tyranny of living under our Monster's demands of us. Once liberated, we are truly free to connect to the most valuable thing in the universe, deep intimacy/love.

Sacred Path Men's Retreat Learning Objectives:

·      To gain the ability to clearly identify the problem(s)/monster(s) wreaking havoc in one's life. It is the relationship with the problem(s) that is the problem.

·      To gain the ability to search one's own belief system for false and misleading information; to delete and do a rewrite. Evaluating the problem saturated story.

·      To learn about the process of changing the relationship with the problem(s) thereby liberating one's Self. Examining metaphors of empowerment.

·      To examine and learn about how to change one's relationship with common Monsters: low self esteem, fear, anxiety, and depression. Objectify the problematic relationship, not the person/your Self; entering into Externalizing conversations.

·      To learn how to create allies in the quest to run monsters out of town. Teaching your Self, family, and friends how to use empowering language of change.

·      To learn how to create a mental environment that attracts happiness and success. The ultimate tool-forgiveness; letting go with the expectation of change.

·      To understand that there is no great without hard. And, if you want to be great, the universe will supply the hard. Accepting the Zen Master Challenge.

 

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Rod Louden & MCLA Executive Director Dr. Stephen Johnson

ROD LOUDEN, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT, BCPC
While most therapists limit their interaction with clients solely to the therapeutic hour, Rod applies the Narrative Therapy ideal of post session letter writing. He has written thousands of post session letters to clients. These letters help to keep both the client and therapist focused on the work at hand and create bridges of thought between sessions.

 

 

In addition to Narrative Therapy, Rod utilizes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in Marriage Counseling, Couples Counseling, Addiction, Survivors of Childhood Abuse, Problem Solving, Self-Growth, Anxiety, Depression, working with Teens and Relationship Building. In addition, he works with Musicians, Actors, and Artists to break through creative blocks as well as Athletes at all levels for improved performance on and off the field. Rod is a performance coach for YSPN360.com. He is also the author of “Monster Relationships: Taming the Beasts that are Killing Your Relationships" and contributor to "101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life, Vol 3."  Email him at rodlouden@aol.com or visit www.rodlouden.com.

Rod will be a featured presenter at MCLA's Fall Men's Retreat on the mountain above Malibu, October 19-22. Click here to register for the Fall Sacred Path Men's Retreat.

Rod will be a featured presenter at MCLA's Fall Men's Retreat on the mountain above Malibu, October 19-22. Click here to register for the Fall Sacred Path Men's Retreat.